Is self love to be considered a ‘good’ selfishness, or something more evolved?
Certainly that question together with countless other pursuits for ‘ truths’ is what we seem to be good at – asking this of ourselves and our ‘significant others’. Why? Because we care, enough, to ask.
But beyond questions and talk; I suspect lesser numbers of us consistently live wholly at ease with ‘self love’ as a declared concept, much less embody it in our every daily action. Why? – another question! Consider, if you will, ‘ no (wo)man is an island’. Sit with it, awhile.
That said, sometimes you really need significant space, alone, to fully explore with yourself, just this – self love. How long and how much space, that’s up to you, not others, who might be a little to quick to label you ‘selfish’.